Ask them to reflect on the teaching of the Buddha and think about the impermanent nature of all existence . Tell them to let go of all negative attachment. Dedicate household responsibilities to other family members and let others know of the things they wish for. They should have strong faith in Amitabha Buddha and wish for rebirth in the Pure Land. They should reconfirm or establish faith in the Three Jewels, Buddha, Dharma and Sangha. The person should try to avoid harbouring hatred and fear.